If we crave a relationship when we are single, we will bring that wantingness into any relationship with the consequent problems. To feel that destiny will provide us with what best meets our deepest needs is to be able to enter into any stage of life with confidence and a sense of completeness, not a sense of lack which someone else is supposed to fill.
Relationship transitions are an inevitable part of human life, in one form or another. However, in the grand scheme of things they are nothing to be concerned about. Souls come and go, in various ways, in and out of our life over great eons of time. We never lose someone we love. The bond is eternal. As relationships transform, the door is opened to new developments which are very important for our spiritual progress. Nothing is lost. When we are on the spiritual path, everything is a gain.
I separated from my husband nine years ago. We are still the best of friends and, sometimes, go out together with our teenage son. My six years of single life, "alone", were filled with spiritual growth and love. A little adjustment, perhaps, at the beginning but not too much. It was a wonderful time and absolutely complete. One can have lots of friends as a single person, do lots of things, and have much beneficial quiet time. If people knew this when they are embarking on a time as a single person, they would lose their fear and embrace it with relish as a precious opportunity for personal development. Every stage of life is perfect when we look for the genuine blessing in it. It may soon enough be over, so appreciate the solitude and freedom while it is there!
Such a confident and fearless attitude to life and a knowledge that we will always be taken care of allows us to extend a greater freedom to all our loved ones. If we let a loved one go because they wish to do something else, their love for us actually grows, out of gratitude for giving them their freedom. This applies to partners, children, friends, and work colleagues.
In a different type of world, where higher energies rule, the marked relationship boundaries and bonds that are necessary in this world, would be unnecessary. Souls would have much more freedom to pursue whatever is best for their growth. Bonds would be deeper, love would be more unconditional, and freedom would be unquestionable.
By practicing this sort of fearless and unconditional love, not only do we become more loving but we, also, find that much love is returned to us. We find love by being loving. And we find that love is, indeed, everywhere around us. In such a world, surrounded by graciousness and love, how could we ever feel alone, afraid, or rejected?
"Love is benign, supportive, and nurtures life; consequently it is the level of true happiness... It is discovered that Love is available everywhere and that lovingness results in the return of love. "
David R. Hawkins
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